Rejection does not have to ruin your day!
Do you seek relationships with others who do not want to connect with you? Do you let rejection get you down?
I am the product of my Mother’s extramarital affair, and I have been keenly aware that she loved and accepted my siblings and not me throughout my entire life. Over the years I struggled to accept her rejection, but in the past year I finally came to terms with it. I decided to connect with people who choose me. In other words, I no longer rent space in my brain to people who do not want to connect with me. And now I am much happier than I was.
How do I stop thinking about the people with whom I would have liked to connect with who do not want to connect with me? I force myself to turn my thoughts to people who want to connect with me. When thoughts of my Mother who chooses not to connect with me arise, I force myself to think about others who do accept me and love me for who I am. I also remind myself that I am a valuable, lovable human being and that I have many positive traits.
And I always remind myself that my Mother’s rejection of me is just her opinion of what she did many years ago to create me and her guilt over that event. Her rejection has nothing to do with my worth as a human being! God understands me and knows that I am valuable and worthy of love!
Before I started doing this, a big black cloud seemed to be following me everywhere I went. It blocked the sun’s bright rays from filtering down to me and made me feel depressed. One day I reread my journal and tried to figure out why I feel depressed. I noticed patterns in my depressive symptoms, that I seemed to feel most depressed when I had been thinking about my Mother who was rejecting me. Also I realized that most people do accept me and I could think about those people instead.
If you feel down because others reject you, please try to overcome your feelings of rejection. You will probably feel much less depressed and so much happier.