Do not let any unhealthy relationship hurt you. Maintain healthy boundaries.
Is your family dysfunctional? Mine is.
Today my sister sent a nasty email to me. She accused me of things I have not done. Her email violated all boundaries of a healthy relationship. It was very nasty and negative.
I did not read the email though. Someone read the email for me and replied on my behalf. My friend told her that her email was negative and therefore I would not read it. Then she set up a filter that sends my sister’s emails to my spam folder.
My sister seems to think that because she manages the Health Information Systems Department at a small technical college in Northwest Georgia that she can do anything she wants to do to anyone. She thinks she can hurt anyone she wants to hurt, including me. She is definitely wrong.
This was not the first time my sister violated boundaries for a healthy relationship. She has done that every email she has sent this week. She did it when she sent me a threatening text yesterday morning as I sat down to breakfast. I knew I had to protect myself from her so I arranged for a friend to read any email from her and reply on my behalf.
If your family is dysfunctional, you need to maintain healthy boundaries. You need to do whatever you must do to protect yourself from negative attacks. Get a friend to check your email from your family. Screen your phone calls. When a message is negative or derogatory, let someone help you by reading it before you do and telling you not to read it.
Do not let any dysfunctional person cause you any more pain. You deserve a break from all negativity.
If you want to heal your mind, heart, and soul–follow Philippians 4:8:
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
It is wise to focus on the positives in your life, not on the dysfunctional people in your life. Dysfunctional people can drag you down. They can make you feel more depressed and anxious.
Soar like an eagle over life’s storms. Maintain healthy boundaries in all relationships!
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