Solve your problems peacefully and influence others to become your friend, not your foe!
How do you solve your problems with others? Do you become angry, or do you seek kind and peaceful solutions?
Here is a story everyone needs to read.
A farmer in ancient China had a neighbor who was a hunter. His neighbor owned several ferocious and poorly trained hunting dogs. The dogs jumped over the fence frequently and chased the farmer’s lambs away. The poor lambs were very scared of these dogs. The farmer asked his neighbor many times in a mild way to keep his dogs in check, but this fell on deaf ears.
One day the dogs again jumped the fence, attacked and severely injured several of the lambs. Frustrated and angry, the farmer had enough and went to town to consult a judge who listened carefully to the story. The judge replied, “I could punish the hunter and instruct him to keep his dogs chained or lock them up. But you would lose a friend and gain an enemy. Which would you rather have, friend or foe for a neighbor?”
The farmer replied that he preferred a friend. “Alright, I will offer you a solution that will keep your lambs safe, and also ensure that you still remain a friend of your neighbor’s.” Having heard the judge’s solution, the farmer agreed. Once at home, the farmer immediately put the judge’s suggestions to the test. He took three of his best lambs and presented them to his neighbor’s three small sons, who were beside themselves with joy and began to play with them.
To protect his son’s newly acquired playthings, the hunter built a strong kennel for his dogs and never left them loose. His dogs never again bothered the farmer’s lambs. Out of gratitude for the farmer’s generosity towards his sons, the hunter often shared the game he had hunted with the farmer. The farmer reciprocated by sending the hunter the cheese he had made. Within a short time, the neighbors became good friends.
If we all solved our problems by trying to influence others with kindness like this farmer did, the world would be a better place. Kindness would help us to be at peace with each other and would replace the anger that is too prevalent in our society.
Wouldn’t it be great to live in a kind, peaceful society?