When a storm is coming, all other birds seek shelter. The eagle alone avoids the storm by flying above it. So, in the storms of life may your heart be like an eagle’s and soar above.” – Author Unknown

Don’t Let a Negative Person Drag You Down!

You can prevent a negative person from dragging you down!

do not let others bring you down

How should you respond when someone is negative and angry toward you?  How can you prevent a negative person from dragging you down?

If you want to respond and be a peacemaker instead of making the situation worse, you simply have to refuse to be insulted.  You must refuse to accept his negativity.

Do not accept anyone’s anger.  Instead continue to treat him lovingly.

I continue to treat angry people lovingly.

  • First I put myself in the angry person’s shoes.
  • I tell myself that the angry person is hurting.
  • Also I immediately forgive him or her.
  • I think of him or her as a child of God who deserves my love instead of my anger in return.
  • Then I tell myself that responding in kind will only hurt me. I do my best to not respond in kind.

Second, do not tolerate the anger he directs toward you.

 On Mother’s Day this year, my Mother had just moved to my sister’s home.  She is getting older and  needs a bit more help.  But she moved in with my older sister who has always been negative and mean toward me.

I tried to wish my Mother a Happy Mother’s Day by sending a Mother’s Day wish to my sister’s email .  My sister responded very negatively and hatefully.  I responded lovingly and I also asked her to please treat me the same way I am treating her, with respect and love.  She refused.  Again a nasty reply.  This time I told her that I will not continue to communicate with her until she communicates respectfully.

She persisted one more time with a negative response.  She mailed me a postcard that was negative. It was returned to her unread by me, though.  My mail reader caught her negative post card and sent it back to her without me ever reading it.  Apparently, she has finally got the message:  If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!


If you must communicate with a negative person, you can refuse to accept his or her anger.  Then, if the anger is directed toward you, you can let him or her know that he or she must treat you with respect of you will not communicate with him or her.

Not accepting and tolerating someone’s anger and negativity will help you be less anxious.  And improve how you feel about yourself.

Parents, if you role model this behavior for your child, you will be glad.  Your child will handle life situations much better when he gets older.

Soar like an eagle over life’s storms!  Do not let a negative person drag you down!

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If you enjoyed this post, remember that BJ writes for children. Her book Near a River is available on Amazon.com and Barnesandnoble.com.




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Wendi Steinkamp

Very good proud of you with the cards you have been dealt


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"Each reader's heart is like an eagle's and can soar above the storms in life..." - Near a River's Author, BJ Rae.

Written with uplifting words of encouragement, Near a River is a photographic children's book about two young bald eagles who are eager for their mother to teach them to fly so they may soar over the storms in their lives. Near a River encourages early childhood reading. BJ hopes that every child becomes a strong reader and soars above the storms in life.

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