My Grandma taught me how to love and be loved back.
Do you want others to love you back? Of course you do! Everyone does!
My Grandma did not even complete elementary school, but she was very wise. She understood human nature. She was poor financially but extremely wealthy in love. Her example taught me how to love and be loved back.
Grandma spoke each person’s own love language.
She knew my feet hurt most of the time and I did not sleep well at home. She knew I was hungry, tired, and lonely. When I went to her home, she massaged my feet then I would fall asleep on her couch with my feet in her lap. When I woke up, she fed me her yummy homemade cooking. I read to her and we worked in her garden or cooked together. She really listened to me when I talked with her.
Grandma knew I needed those things and she gave them to me. I loved her back with all of my heart.
She treated others the same way. Her theme song was Bill Withers “Lean on Me“. She recognized what each person needed and did her best to meet each person’s needs.
Grandma loved others and others loved her back. People crowded her funeral and had to park their cars half a mile away. Most who “attended” had to stand outside due to lack of space.
You too can love and be loved back.
Just follow these simple steps.
Actively listen to what the person is saying.
Try to figure out what he needs most at the moment.
Do your best to provide what he needs or help him find it.
When you love others and show others you love them, you improve your own life too. Helping others reduces your own depression, anxiety, and stress-related health issues.
Parents, give your children a good example so they will follow it when they grow up. Show everyone around you love in their own language.